Marriage: A Loveseat for Two

In commemoration of Black History Month, the Church of God is pleased to present a series of articles, features, and devotionals written by pastors and ministry leaders of African descent within the denomination.

By Bishop Andrew Daubon

Like so many people in America, I have had my share of nightmares trying to put together some new equipment or gadget without reading the manual. We get excited to open the box and cannot wait to put that piece of equipment to work. We are a little disappointed when we discover that it needs to be assembled, but take a few glances at the picture on the box and tell ourselves that the assembly is so easy there is no need to read the manual. We then jump right into fitting the item together, and in minutes we are done but notice there are a few extra pieces. We conclude that they are extra pieces and proceed to try the equipment out only to find out that it does not work. At that point, we hear that voice in our head saying: “You should have read the instructional manual.” The instructional manual is a direct means by which the product’s creator tells the consumer how to correctly assemble, use and care for the item they invented. I believe the institution of marriage is an invention of God the Creator to satisfy specific needs in us humans (consumers).

Andrew Daubon

In my book entitled “Marriage: A Loveseat for Two,” I identify why marriage was invented and how to optimize its function as a loveseat. I spend time looking at the four legs that keep the loveseat upright and balanced and share ways to correct any or all the legs that may need adjustment. I do all of this by using God’s instructional manual, the Bible, as my primary source of instruction. The four legs are found in Genesis 2:24-25(KJV): Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Who should read this book? It is for anyone hoping to get married and those already married. Its common-sense approach helps optimize marriages that are already great and improve those that need some help. The book covers issues like the balance of power in the marriage, emotional and physical leaving to become one, communicating one’s needs, and insights on intimacy and trust.

I am blessed to be married to Michaelia “Eighth Wonder” Daubon, and together we have two beautiful daughters. In addition, we are relationship coaches and mental health counselors who make monthly appearances on the local NBC TV to discuss related matters.

Bishop Daubon currently serves as Senior Pastor of Celestial Praise Church of God, District Overseer for the Springfield District of Churches, member of the Southern New England Church of God Regional Council, and former President of the Pastors Council of Greater Springfield. Bishop Daubon’s book “Marriage A Loveseat For Two” is among the resources used for Adult Discipleship on the Church of God website and found on Amazon. He can be reached at 860-944-0801 and

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